There is obviously an over use of technology I don’t need to tell you that. The questions you need to ask is are you shooting yourself in the foot by using all of these methods of so called communication. Women are always talking about trying to find an honest man, or a man who can ‘communicate’. At the same time you can’t be a hypocrite.
Back in the 60s if a man wanted to meet a woman he went out and found her, it wasn’t complicated just like the 70s, 80s, and early 90s. Over time the methodology changed I’m not talking about comparing free love to the disco dancing and crappy music. I am talking about a shift in relationship dynamic.
In the early days a man would ask a woman to accompany him for the evening she would either accept or decline. She would either say ‘thank you I would love to’ or ‘no thank you I must decline’. Short and to the point I hate to say it but this is the way it should be.
The dynamics shifted over the years as did the lifestyles towards dating and sex, I am sure you’re more than aware of that. Just compare the communication abilities of women of the ‘early days’ to modern women. If you want to find true gentlemen it starts with communication.
When a woman is breaking up with a man she always goes back to communication. Something like this for example ‘you never communicate with me’ or ‘I just don’t know how you feel about me’. To be honest women and their communication skills have been getting worse over the last fifty years. Now ladies as for the men there communication skills have completely tanked.
Men now days have very little interpersonal skills. They can deal with rejection all day long but the thought of rejection scares the holy hell out of them. So by playing games using technology based items to basically ‘buy time’ your only intensifying the situation. You’re creating stress and disharmony in what could have been a wonderful relationship.
So what do I do Bryce? I understand that you don’t want to be pushy and at the same time you don’t want to seem desperate. So the question is where is the balance? The balance can be found in the communication and the honesty behind it.
If you not interested in him just say so. It’s not a put down your just being honest. You can do it in a classy way sort of like the women from the 50s and 60s. When they would just decline your request like I stated above.
Be honest and be direct and lose the third party which is technology. Either you want to see him again or you don’t you know the answer to this questions with in the first few minutes of meeting him. Just telling him to face book you is the same as me having someone come to the door and try to sell something and me asking him ‘what is your 1 800 number’ it’s the same thing it’s a f@#k off response.
As for you women who are game players who want to toy with men. Maybe you enjoy your phone ringing off the hook and thousands of text messages and just having men beg you for the time of day. I have a message for you and I mean it in the most honest way possible. Enjoy it while it lasts, you’re not going to be young and have a nice body forever. There is a reason why you don’t see girls in the clubs after age twenty five it’s because they just can’t stand the competition.
I can’t stop you from playing with a bunch of gullible guys who probably deserve what you’re doing to them anyway. I can warn you against taking it too far. Every time I hear about a girl telling me how she has this stalker blah blah blah. I always think back to the example of a tasteful rejection instead of the standard run around. If this woman who claims to have a stalker was honest from the beginning would this have happened or am I just blaming the victim. Anything’s possible.