What are the three most important things in a relationship?

This is the first serious question I ask a woman when I meet her and it tells me so much about her. What are the three most important things in a relationship, most women usually say something along the lines of communication, love and passion.

The reason women in general use the word communication I believe is to scare men. Women always use the word communication when there breaking up with a guy for example ‘you never communicate with me anymore I don’t know what you’re thinking or how you feel’

As for the other two most common answers is that never ending belief in prince charming or what I like to call the fairy tale side of the answer. This is what I am going to do, I am going to give you what I believe are the three most important things in a relationship are and I am going to let you be the judge if you think I got them wrong please let me know.

I believe that the three most important things in a relationship are honesty, trust, and respect. I always tell to women this after they gave me their version so we can compare. As long as you have honesty you will always have communication. The more honest and up front a man is in the beginning the more trusting you are of him.

Instead of these guys fabricating stories about nonsense just to approach you I know I could never be in a relationship with someone when I knew the first thing they said to me was a lie.

If a man just walked up to you and said this ‘ Look I am attracted to you and I just wanted you to know and I want you to know what it is I like about you because I always believe on starting off on the right foot’. Look at a man who has the balls to say something like that he is not hiding behind phone numbers or emails or anything.

This is where the trust comes into play. I know this is from a man’s point of view but when I approach a woman using the above method it cuts down on the non sense game playing drama I would normally deal with. It’s like suddenly they were all afraid to lose me. The ones with boyfriends would keep me around just so they could ask me questions about their man. This is when I realized that I had stumbled upon something wonderful.

The Last thing on the list is obvious respect. I say it’s obvious because if you already have honesty and trust respect becomes natural very natural indeed. If a woman were in a relationship with a man and she had honesty and trust would she call his cell phone 15 times a day to check up on him?

Exactly, Trust breeds trust if you have it you don’t want to lose it or abuse it. You need to have the first two to have the third, but you can’t have any of them without all three. It’s like making a cake you just need these core ingredients. Once you have those you’re going to be much better off.

The women who are in relationships with men and they want to get married because their near thirty-something and they don’t know what to do. The obviously are lacking from the for mentioned rules. To tell the truth I set these rules up in the beginning not just as a frame work for a healthy relationship, but as a trap. It’s like setting out landmines I am just waiting for her to step on one because with women it’s only a matter of time before they do.

A great example of this would be driving in the car with my girlfriend and I saw a women and I felt attracted to her so I looked at her and I was spoken to harshly by my girlfriend. So obviously I jumped back to the first thing I ever spoke to her about i.e. honesty, trust, and respect. She had just stepped on one of my landmines. These rules like I said aren’t just meant so I can be happy they are meant to keep things in order.

Now I know there are women out there that have done or would have done what my now ex-girlfriend did. I want to address those concerns right now. I am nearly thirty and I live in Canada where they average man dies at age 78 years of age. I only have so many years on this planet so if I want to look at a wonderful woman I will and I won’t hide it.

It’s a major double standard if I look at a woman and my girlfriend gives me a hard time she is just keeping control. If I gave my girlfriend a hard time for looking at another man I am a controlling abusive psychopath!
Honesty, Trust and respect

Bryce
Brycedating@gmail.com